Reset your life. Transform it with one, simple rule:
Get rid of anything that doesn't spark joy.
The only side effect? You may end up thanking your shoes for staying up all day. Intrigued? Keep on reading..
Blame it on Marie. KonMari.
What would you do if someone promised you that you could be happier with an environment that reflects what you truly enjoy. That the process of tidying would help you to make peace with your choices, accept the person you are in the present and inform whom you want to be in the future? Oh, and lose some weight like it ain't no thing.
Thanks to Marie "Konmari" Kondo's book:
The life Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese art of decluttering and organizing - we can face our daily fears and existential struggles with the simple act of getting rid of unnecessary crap.
When you KonMari your apartment too hard.
The Japanese may just be on to something.
From the early chapters Marie seems to deeply understand the emotional baggage of crap accumulating:
"If it doesn't "spark joy" in your life, toss it", we hear.
Through this simple process, your life is getting transformed, as you release all the negative emotions along with the physical junk.
But not too fast, kiddo.
First, you'll probably start with crawling in the middle of it, curling up in a fetal position, waiting for the sun to come up and save you.
But even if KonMari is just another scary sounding lifestyle method,
these rules will speak to your mind from the very start:
1. Tidying is suposed to be hardcore.
Prepare yourself for a throwing away party: bags full of items, rooms full of bags. You will be very surprised by the full shocking volume of what you've amassed (and how much money you've burned along the way). Actually, you might end up feeling like a very surprised stockbroker who invested all his money in.. clothes? Shoes and bags? Sport bras, even. Unless of course you bought a pair of Miista shoes, their value on the vintage market is tremendous!
Bottom line, it won't be pretty.
Bottom line #2: sweatpants, tied hair and lots of hefty bags is a must.
2. You know nothing about cleaning.
Forget popular myths like: tidying one room at the time. This way you will never get anything done. Marie wants you to tidy by category, not by location.
Second: Books and Papers.
Third category: "miscellaneous".
And at the very end, the curve ball of it all: items of the sentimental value.
3. If the object sparks joy, keep it. If not, discard it.
It's the most important rule to the whole method. You must take each item in your hands. Feel it. (Even smell it). When you touch a piece of clothing or perhaps a shoe, your whole body reacts. You know exactly if you want to keep it in your life. The answer will come instinctively and that's the most personal thing that will serve you well.
You will be happy to find out how little you actually need, surrounded only by the things that you truly love.
4. "Dear owner. If you don't like me, please let me go. Love, Your Stuff".
Ok, here's the awkward part when you talk to your old pair of jeans as if they have feelings.
Marie Kondo comes from a Shinto background. Due to that fact, she perceives the objects in an animistic sense, aware of their life and their relationship with the owners.
She'll urge you to pick up that sweater of yours and say:
"Thank you for keeping me warm all day" or when tossing it:
"Thank you for making me beautiful".
This suggests that caring for your possesions is the best way to keep the sparkle going. Why should we keep anything if we don't care about it in the first place? What's wrong with saying "thank you" to the things that served us so well. They kept us warm, safe and happy.
5. Tidying, when done right, can be life changing.
By the end of this process you'll be more careful about what you let into your house. But it doesn't have to stop there. Imagine: surrounded only by the things that make you happy, you might seek out the same in all other areas of your life.
Say you felt restricted by an unsatisfying job or relationship, maybe you would think:
Why not "tidy"over there, also?